Rules for dating a wealthy man
They were exposed to temptations unknown to most of their fathers in a society more restrictive than that which their sons would enjoy.Women were at even more of a disadvantage in that restrictive society as they still could not seek out men or make "the first move." Their prerogative was, as was often quoted, "but to accept or decline".In search of ways to occupy his evenings when his pocket money was limited, he often fell in with other fellows like himself.It is curious that the same letter writing volume contains a form for a letter between young men-about-town which has the seeds for disaster on which the three foregoing letters touch: "My dear Lloyd.
For a self-sufficient, high-earning man, a woman’s earning potential carries very little weight. Because we have always been taught that nobody is going to pay our way in life.-- My objections to the proposal contained in your letter, though few in number, demand some attention and, I am well assured, cannot be overcome. I have a son seventeen years of age, and consequently too far advanced to learn filial duty from one not much his senior.As to my little fortune, I consider myself merely the trustee for my children....Your conduct during the last two years has been made known to me, and, viewing you in the light of a dangerous man, I do not desire anymore intimate acquaintance.I could not reasonably expect happiness from a union with an individual who has destroyed the mental quiet of more than one young person, by his total disregard for what is due to the weaker by the stronger sex..." Indeed, men of the period seem to have had such a predilection for going astray that the "courtship" section also includes a lengthy epistle entitled "Remonstrance of a young lady against the reckless life of her future husband".